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Depression

 
Depression- I've been asked on several occasions "How do I get out of this vicious cycle?" or "Why do I keep getting dragged down?"  My response is to start with self-exploration and some suggestions as follows. However, in severe cases where it's impacting your daily functioning (i.e. would rather crawl under a rock and hide all day, every day than face anyone or anything).....it's time to talk to a professional.  In either case, these questions are a start:

Infidelity/cheating

Infidelity - often known as "cheating".  By definition - it's a
violation of the mutually agreed-upon rules or boundaries of an intimate relationship.  For some people, this means the end of a relationship, a "deal breaker" if you will.  However, for some couples it has served as opportunity for growth with the help from a licensed counselor such as myself.   Folks often find during and after the break up that there's more at stake than they bargained for. Especially with married couples and even more so if children are involved (time invested in relationship, finances, loneliness, depression, emotional ties, family, etc).  Married or not, if you're both willing to seek counseling it would definetly help to explore needs as well as possibilities for the relationship going forward.   Counselors like me can help, even if you'd like to seek counseling individually.

Trust issues

Trust is consistently proved over time and definetely earned in some kind of form.  Sometimes, trust is broken due to being let down, dissappointed, taken for granted, or abused.  How do we and should we trust that person again? How can we be trusted again?  Most people find it helpful to visit a professional to be sort of like a "coach" when it comes to trust issues.   I've  provided some questions to ask yourself below before you make a decision about seeing a professional like myself on trust issues:

Communication

Do you ever feel like you just want someone to listen to you about something you're trying to say to them?  This can be very frustrating and can leave you feeling helpless.  Some tips to help get you through this: 
 
1)  Begin by writing out what you want to say (it's important to be honest with yourself on this!).  Using "I" statements can assist with wordinghttp://www.traumacentral.net/i-statements.htm
2) Practice saying it to the person before you actually talk to them
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